I have been thinking about this a lot lately. A recent survey found that parents are experiencing higher levels of psychological distress than ever before. That the pressure of raising kids in this particular moment — cost of living, uncertainty, the pace of everything — is genuinely taking a toll.

And here is the part that gets me every time.

When we are under that kind of pressure, when our bodies are running on stress hormones and our nervous systems are in fight or flight, we cannot access the parts of ourselves that make us good parents. We cannot be curious or playful or patient. We can only survive.

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And our kids feel that. Not because we are failing. Because they are wired to read us. Our nervous system is their nervous system until they develop enough capacity to regulate on their own. Which takes years. Which means the load we carry lands on them too.

This is not about guilt. It is about understanding what is actually happening so we can do something about it.

Parenting is heavy and hard sometimes. It also brings joy. But if we are all running on empty it is very hard to find that joy when our bodies are screaming that we are not safe.

That is why I started running workshops at local community houses. Not because I have it figured out. Because I think we need spaces to talk honestly about what we are carrying and to find some tools that actually help.

We are not alone in this. That matters.

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It took a psychologist pointing out that school pickup was triggering a stress response in me for the lightbulb to actually go on.

Not a bad day. Not poor planning. A stress response.

Here’s what I noticed after that.

When I was in a stress response, we lost the whole day. The routines we’d set up, the step-by-step systems, the checklist on the fridge — all gone. Not because my kids were difficult. Because they weren’t looking for a list. They were looking for cues that told them it was safe. And when I was dysregulated, those cues weren’t there.

I was the atmosphere of the house. Whether I liked it or not.

Both my husband and I are. The way we move through the world lands on our kids. I didn’t really understand that until I started doing the work on myself.

My eldest daughter wasn’t neurodivergent enough to get a formal diagnosis.

But she was neurodivergent enough to carry all the stress and anxiety of a school environment that wasn’t built for her. We did so much work at home. Moved her to the local Steiner school. And now — she runs off at drop-off because she feels safe.

That is the whole thing right there.

My youngest is still working through it. We moved schools, she lost her best friend, she hated it. I don’t have a neat answer for that one yet. But I know that when I am calm and regulated with her, we get out the door and she loves the chat.

That’s enough for now.

The world is asking a lot of our kids right now.

Cosy bed to hurry up, let’s go. One subject to the next. Constant task switching all day. And then they come home and we expect them to transition into dinner and homework and bedtime without losing it.

Meanwhile we’re watching the news and holding our own uncertainty about what kind of world we’re raising them into.

Holding all of that at once is genuinely hard. The only thing we can actually control is how we respond. And that starts with us having the capacity to show up — not perfectly, just with enough in the tank.

They don’t need a perfect version of you. They need a version of you that has the capacity to help them find the rhythm and find the calm to reset on the road.

That’s why I started running workshops.

Not because I have it figured out. Because I spent a year in play therapy — for my kids and for myself — reading the books, doing the research, testing things on my own family, and turning it into something simple enough to actually use on the hardest mornings.

You don’t have to do that part. I’ve done it for you.

Rhythm over Routine is a 90-minute workshop for Yarra Ranges mums exploring the nervous system science behind why transitions feel so hard — and what actually helps. We make a simple essential oil blend to take home, do a guided nervous system reset, and talk honestly about what’s actually going on for our families.

Relaxed. Come as you are. Neurodivergent friendly. Kids welcome.

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That’s it. Just honest writing from a mum in the Yarra Ranges who figured a few things out the hard way.

— Jess x

Brain fog. Poor sleep. 3pm sugar crashes. My shoulder flaring up again. My brain refusing to switch off at night.

I don’t subscribe to the “mums can’t get sick” hustle narrative. But the reality is that when I go down, everything goes down with me. So this week I’m resetting. Not dramatically. Just quietly getting ahead of it.

Here’s what that looks like for me right now.

Food first

Batch cooking on Sunday. Nothing fancy — just enough that I’m not reaching for the pastry tray by 2pm because I forgot to eat a real lunch. Blood sugar is genuinely the unsexy foundation of nervous system regulation. When it spikes and crashes, everything feels harder. The overwhelm is louder. The transitions are rougher. So I’m treating the Sunday cook-up as part of my nervous system routine, not just meal prep.

I’m also using MetaPWR gel caps through the day to help keep things stable, especially during big work weeks when I’m context-switching constantly and the biscuit tin is right there.

Movement

My shoulder has been out for months. I’ve been doing lower body only, which is fine but not quite right for me. This week I’m finally back to upper body training. Copaiba has been a quiet hero in this recovery — anti-inflammatory support that actually works. Half my family are on it now. My mum, my dad, my husband post-surgery, my sister-in-law. We are basically a walking ad at this point.

Sleep

My brain did not get the memo last week that it was time to stop. I was on a train, at drinks, at the kids’ things, on calls with Europe — and even lying in bed my brain was still running the highlights reel of everything unfinished.

Switching from Lavender Peace to Valerian this week. Lavender Peace is beautiful but Valerian is more serious about switching things off. If your brain is the last thing to leave the office, it might be worth a try.

The desk

I work in tech. We are a spicy crew. A lot of us are neurodivergent and the energy in a room of people context-switching at pace is genuinely a lot to hold. I’ve been using Vetiver at work for months. It grounds without sedating. It’s subtle enough that nobody notices but it shifts something in the room. Whether they know it or not.

The honest bit

There’s a buy one get one free on doTERRA right now. If you’ve been curious about any of these — MetaPWR, Copaiba, Valerian, Vetiver — this is a good moment to try them. DM me and I’ll help you work out what’s actually useful for your family rather than just sending you a link and hoping for the best.

We’re heading into the part of winter where everyone in the household cycles through the same cold three times. I’d rather get ahead of it. I hope you would too.

Jess x

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So I started doing something slightly unexpected.

Gardening.

I know. I’m not a “gardening page”. But I’ve found myself oddly, endlessly curious about it. Not because it’s productive or efficient or useful in the usual sense, but because it asks me to slow down. It shifts something in my senses. It pulls me out of my head and into my hands.

This week it came down to something very unglamorous. A compost bin.

We had it sitting in the wrong spot, awkward and slightly annoying, the kind of thing you work around instead of fixing. And because it wasn’t convenient, I kept not using it properly. Every day meant walking further, doing it in a way that felt like effort, so the habit just… didn’t stick.

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And I realised that’s a kind of self-sabotage I know well. Not the obvious kind, but the slow kind. The “I’ll deal with it later” kind that quietly removes the ease from things that are meant to support you.

I’ve been told how important soil is. How everything starts there. But it’s not instant. It’s not satisfying in the moment. It doesn’t give you a quick win. You put things in, and then you wait. You trust something is happening underground without any immediate proof.

And I think that’s where I’ve struggled. I’ve been living in a season of busy. A mum-season, maybe. Or just a modern-life-season. Reactive instead of deliberate. Doing things as they come, instead of shaping the space they come into.

Now that the kids are getting a little older, I can feel the shift asking something different of me. Not more productivity. More intention. And weirdly, more peace with things not going to plan.

Because if all I ever do is plant seeds and never tend the rest, I don’t really lose anything… but I also miss the part where things actually grow. I miss the payoff of my own effort. The slow proof that something is working underneath it all.

And I’m not fully sure what this is yet. A mum thing, a busy-life thing, a nervous-system thing. Probably all of it. But I am noticing that I don’t want to keep missing the small windows where things could actually take root.

So I moved the compost bin.

And now I wait.

That’s the part I’m learning to be okay with. The waiting. The not-yet-visible progress. The work that doesn’t feel like work because it’s quiet and repetitive and easy to underestimate.

Slow productivity, I guess, is what this reminds me of. Not doing more, but doing less in a way that actually holds. Less noise, more rhythm. Less switching, more settling. Choosing a few things properly instead of everything partially.

Not rushing the soil. Not forcing growth. Just creating the conditions where things can actually happen.

And for now, that feels like enough.

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I have this strong need to set things up in my own way. Even if the advice is good, even if I asked for it, even if I respect the person giving it, if it doesn’t feel like mine, I resist it.

And recently, that’s been running the show.

I actually sat down and wrote out all the advice I’d been given on one specific thing, and it was a bit of a moment. There were four things I had taken on board, and about forty-five that I hadn’t.

It made it very clear that I wasn’t just figuring it out in my own way, I was making it harder than it needed to be.

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So I had to find a way to get out of my own way. What worked for me was simple. co

Writing things down, actually physically writing, not typing. It slows everything down, gives me space to process, and removes that internal pushback because I’m the one holding the pen. I also moved everything onto colour-coded post-it notes so my brain doesn’t have to hold it all anymore.

It’s there when I need it, without the pressure. I still don’t fully know what the block is. Maybe it’s my neurotype, maybe it’s being a mum.

There’s something about losing so much control in daily life that makes you hold onto it in other ways.

Even something small, like taking advice or stopping for a break, can feel like resistance.

I’m not fully past it, but I did get out of my own way, even just a little, and that’s been enough to shift things.

Do you do this? How do you move through it?

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Combat sports isn’t just a hobby space anymore. It’s a fast-growing ecosystem where athletes are actively looking for better solutions around hygiene, recovery, and performance.

So the question becomes simple: why not turn what you’re already doing into something that pays you back?

The Opportunity in Front of You

The opportunity in front of you sits right inside everyday combat sports culture. If you’re training, talking about gear, recovery, or hygiene after class, you’re already operating inside a high-trust environment where influence and buying decisions naturally happen.

Gyms, comps, and open mats aren’t just places to train, they’re active networks where real conversations about what works and what doesn’t shape behaviour.

As awareness around hygiene risks like Staph, recovery needs, and performance support like electrolytes continues to grow, so does the demand for simple, effective solutions.

What looks like normal post-training chat is actually the foundation of a growing market you’re already part of.

What you unlock when you join the club

When you join the Team you get:

• The tools and marketstall/comps setup (if you are local)

• The Resillient Living labels and your first 5 spray bottles

• Access to out training and education

• Free membership to grow you own social media training with the Social Influence Club:

  • Weekly coaching calls

  • Branding, Education and Mentoring Workshops

  • Business Mentoring Containers

  • Social Media Content & Branding Guides

How You Actually Step Into It

With 100 PV as a doTERRA customer, you unlock:

• Wholesale pricing (approx. 25% discount access)

• Loyalty rewards points you can use monthly

• Access to product sharing tools and referral links

This turns everyday products into a simple affiliate-style system you can build around what you already use.

Here’s what 100PV (Personal Volume) looks like.

• Complete Anti-Bacterial Solutions (including Jitz Spritz)

• Hydration & Recovery

How It Fits Your Lifestyle (Not a Side Job)

You’re not cold selling. You’re just sharing what already comes up:

• After training conversations

• At comps and open mats

• Inside your gym community

• Online with your audience

This is already happening. The difference is now you can be rewarded for it.

Multiple Ways to Earn

• Retail margin on products you share

• Loyalty rewards you accumulate monthly

• Affiliate-style links for tracking and sharing

• Real-world sales at gyms, comps, and events

Your environment becomes your marketplace.

Why Timing Matters

Recovery, electrolytes, creatine support, and natural hygiene solutions are becoming standard expectations in sport.

Combat sports is still early in this shift — which means the people who step in now are the ones who benefit most from growth.

If you’re already in the sport, you’re already in the conversation.

So the question isn’t “can I do this?”

It’s “why not turn this into something that earns while I’m already here?”

But two days off them, something shifted. Not in a dramatic way, just in a quiet and uncomfortable honesty.

I stopped being able to outrun how tired I actually am.

What I thought was clarity might have just been momentum. A borrowed kind of energy that lets me become a more efficient version of myself for a while. I can be a better worker, a more organised parent, someone who is “on” again.

But there is always a cost later. A crash that I tell myself I’ll deal with afterwards. A heaviness that catches up with me once I finally stop moving.

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And I think I’m starting to see that more clearly now. It doesn’t feel like clarity anymore. It feels like delay. Like I am postponing how I actually feel by staying in motion.

Because when I do stop, even briefly, I can feel it. Not sickness. Just depletion. The kind that has been sitting underneath everything for a long time.

And maybe the hardest part is this. I’ve been measuring how I am doing by how much I can get done. How focused I can be. How productive I feel. How well I can hold everything together without falling apart.

But none of that actually tells me if I am okay.

I keep thinking I just need to get through this season and then I will rest properly. But the season never really ends. It just changes shape and asks something different of me.

I don’t have a neat answer for this. I only have a clearer awareness.

That maybe I haven’t been “sick” in the way I thought. Maybe I have just been running on too little for too long and calling it coping.

And I think I am only just starting to understand what it would mean to stop proving I can keep up, and start asking what it would look like if I didn’t have to.

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Working part-time with kids, my hours didn’t match my energy or my value and I burned out again. Full-time with two kids brought constant stress, daily gaslighting at work, and no escape. Burnout returned. Even playground politics and personal stressors pushed me back into burnout.

I’ve learned the hard way that my nervous system matters. Resetting, slowing down, and supporting it every day isn’t optional. It’s how I avoid the cycle of burnout.

Small Daily Habits That Help Me Stay Resilient

Supporting the nervous system doesn’t have to be complicated. Small, consistent habits make a big difference.

Sunlight and time outdoors help reset my mood, calm my system, and reduce sensory overwhelm. Gentle movement releases tension and supports my energy.

I also lean on essential oils I actually use. Balance helps me feel grounded and steady during change. Lavender Peace is soothing and supportive for rest at night. Citrus Bliss lifts my energy and supports focus in the morning. Adaptiv gives extra support on the harder, more stressful days.

These practices don’t prevent stress or remove every challenge, but they help lower the background load so my energy, focus, and calm feel more stable day to day.

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Why This Matters?

Our nervous system is the foundation of how we feel, respond, and recover. When it’s constantly pushed, everything else becomes harder — our energy, our mood, our ability to connect, to make decisions, and to care for ourselves and others. Supporting it is about survival, not perfection.

Small, realistic habits add up over time. They help me show up as a calmer, more resilient parent, partner, and human. They make the chaos of life feel just a little more manageable.

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Nothing complicated. Just a small stash that covers a lot.

Things like:

• Bicarb soda for cleaning, deodorising, and laundry
• White vinegar for surfaces, glass, and general cleaning
• Castile soap for body wash, hand wash, and gentle cleaning
• Carrier oils (like almond or macadamia) for skin and blends
• Essential oils for antibacterial support, scent, and function
• Epsom salts for baths and muscle recovery

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With just these, you can make a surprising amount.

Cleaning sprays, body oils, bath soaks, laundry support, even simple antibacterial blends.

It also takes the pressure off needing to buy a different product for everything.

Less clutter.
Less guesswork.
More control over what’s in your home.

It’s not about doing everything from scratch. It’s about having a few options so you can keep things simple and flexible.

And over time, it becomes second nature.

It started when I had a newborn, and my mum began researching the impact of synthetic fragrance, VOCs, and everyday toxins on the nervous system. That was the beginning of the shift.

At the time, I wasn’t trying to overhaul everything. I was tired, overwhelmed, and just trying to get through the day. But once you start looking into what’s actually in the products we use every day, it’s hard to ignore.

There are more and more conversations now about how long-term exposure to household chemicals can impact health, especially for women. And when you realise how much time we spend at home, it does make you pause.

So we started small.

Laundry

One of the first areas I focused on was laundry.

What we wear and breathe every day felt like a simple place to begin. Keeping it as natural as possible, reducing heavy fragrance, and having a separate antibacterial plan for sports gear when needed.

Nothing complicated. Just a small shift.

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Beauty

My beauty routine has evolved slowly over the last eight years.

Some things I’ve replaced with simple DIY options using essential oils. Other things I still buy, but I keep it minimal and intentional. I might invest in one good product a year, like a night serum, and keep everything else simple.

It’s ended up being a pretty affordable way to use high quality ingredients without overcomplicating things.

One thing I don’t miss is synthetic fragrance. It gives me headaches, and once I started paying attention to how it felt in my body, I couldn’t ignore it. Especially when it comes to products for kids.

Kitchen

The kitchen has become a bit of a constant reuse zone.

Jars get kept. Containers get reused. Old jars become smoothie cups. It’s not aesthetic, but it works.

It’s less about doing it perfectly and more about making use of what we already have.

We’ve also swapped out things like older non-stick cookware over time, choosing options that feel safer and last longer.

The Bigger Picture

If I’ve learned anything, it’s that slow and steady really does win.

Trying to change everything at once is overwhelming. But small swaps, done consistently, add up.

For me, the goal has never been perfection. It’s about creating a home that feels supportive, where what we use daily is a little bit better for our health and lasts a bit longer.

Sometimes that means investing upfront in something that doesn’t need replacing constantly. Sometimes it’s just getting creative with what’s already in the cupboard.

And sometimes it’s making it a bit of a game.

What can we reuse?
What can last longer?
What can we simplify?

Start Small

If you’re thinking about making changes, start small.

Maybe it’s adding a plant to help with airflow.
Maybe it’s keeping your jars instead of throwing them out.
Maybe it’s swapping one product you use every day.

It doesn’t have to be perfect to make a difference.

And if you want help getting started with low tox cleaning or simple beauty swaps using essential oils, I’m always happy to share what’s worked for us.

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Some things that regulate one person might stress someone else. Fragrance might calm one person and overwhelm another. Some people can watch the news and feel informed, while others feel completely dysregulated.

But the goal is still the same: building enough capacity to move through life without constantly burning out.

That’s where the idea of a club came in.

Resilience isn’t just something that happens inside one household. It grows through community. Through sharing ideas, resources, and support.

Part of why I love running workshops locally is because of that. The community houses and parent groups around me supported me when I was in the thick of early parenting. Being able to show up in those same spaces now and share practical tools feels a bit like paying that support forward.

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Mum to mum.
Person to person.
Community to community.

The Resilient Living Club is still very much an experiment. I first scribbled the idea down during a cold winter last year, and since then a small but lovely group of people have started joining in.

It’s honestly a huge honour to have you here.

I’m curious though.

Do you have anything in your life that you’d consider a small resilience habit?
What helps your household stay steady when things get messy?
And maybe the bigger question: What does resilience mean to you?

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• Yarrow Pom – Supports skin regeneration and soothes irritation, helping your skin recover overnight. (optional)

• Frankincense – Promotes cellular renewal and calm, enhancing relaxation and skin rejuvenation while you sleep.

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Base Ingredients:

• Almond Oil or Macadamia Oil (or another carrier oil of choice) – Both oils are deeply nourishing and absorb easily into the skin. Almond oil is rich in vitamins A and E, helping hydrate and protect skin, while macadamia oil is high in fatty acids that support skin repair and restore suppleness.

Method To Make:

In your 10ml roller bottle add (example here):

• 7 drops Yarrow Pom

• 5 drops Frankincense

• Fill the rest with Almond or Macadamia Oil

Roll on face after cleansing then apply your moisturiser on top to lock in the ingredients so they go deeper into the skin layers.

Usage & Shelf Life:

Use nightly after cleansing and before moisturising. Store in a cool, dark place. Use within 6–12 months.

Investment Check 2025 Cost Comparison:

• DIY – $5 to $7 per roller

• Compared to retail – $20 to $30

Want to gamify your oil purchases and save more?

Consider becoming a doTERRA customer with me and join the Loyalty Rewards Program. Accumulate points on the must-have household items to get discounts on the ingredients listed above.

Oil Details & Safety:

• Yarrow Pom – Gentle and soothing, historically used to calm irritation and support healthy skin.

• Frankincense – Promotes cellular renewal and skin rejuvenation while calming the mind and body for better sleep.

• Almond Oil or Macadamia Oil – Rich in vitamins and fatty acids, these carrier oils deeply hydrate, restore suppleness, and support skin repair overnight.

Got left over products?

• Ingredients – Try making a DIY Nighttime Face Balm or Calming Body Oil

• Packaging – Keep the droplet or roller bottles for gifts or other DIYs

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• Yarrow Pom – Known for its skin-soothing and regenerative properties, Yarrow Pom helps calm irritation and supports healthy, glowing skin.

• Frankincense – Supports skin renewal, promotes relaxation, and enhances the overall soothing effect of the blend.

• Citrus Bliss – A bright, uplifting citrus blend that invigorates the senses and adds a refreshing aroma to your body oil.

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Base Ingredients:

• Coconut Oil (or another carrier oil of choice) or Almond Oil (optional for extra hydration)

Method To Make:

In your 30ml or 50ml roller/bottle add (example here):

• 7 drops Yarrow Pom

• 5 drops Frankincense

• 5 drops Citrus Bliss

• Fill the rest of the bottle with carrier oil

Massage into skin after showering or anytime your body needs hydration and soothing.

Usage & Shelf Life:

Apply daily or as needed. Store in a cool, dark place. Use within 6–12 months for maximum freshness.

Investment Check 2025 Cost Comparison:

• DIY – $7 to $10 per bottle

• Compared to retail – $25 to $40

Want to gamify your oil purchases and save more?

Consider becoming a doTERRA customer with me and join the Loyalty Rewards Program. Accumulate points on the must-have household items to get discounts on the ingredients listed above.

Oil Details & Safety:

• Yarrow Pom – Soothes skin and supports regeneration, historically used for calming irritation.

• Frankincense – Promotes skin renewal and relaxation.

• Citrus Bliss – Uplifting, invigorating aroma for a natural mood boost.

Got left over products?

Ingredients – Try making a DIY massage blend or hand balm

Packaging – Keep the droplet bottles or roller bottles for gifts or other DIYs

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• Lavender Peace Blend

• DIY Relax & Ground Blend Lavender,Vetiver, Chamomile & Cedarwood

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Base Ingredients:

• Coconut Oil (or another carrier oil of choice)

• Water

Method To Make:

In your 10ml roller bottle add top the bottle up with carrier oil until it’s 1 cm to the top then add:

• Lavender Peace Blend: 10 -15 drops, OR
  Relax & Ground Blend: 2-3 drops Lavender, 2-3 drops Frankincense, 2-3 drops Vetiver, 2-3 drops Chamomile

Get rolling to relax and recover before bed.

Usage & Shelf Life:

Use after cleansing and applying (non-alcohol) toner. Roll onto pulse points, neck, shoulders, or tired muscles before sleep.

Investment Check 2025 Cost Comparison:

• DIY – $5 to $7 per roller

• Compared to retail – $20 to $25

Want to gamify your oil purchases and save more?

Consider becoming a doTERRA customer with me and join the Loyalty Rewards Program. Accumulate points on the must-have household items to get discounts on the ingredients listed above.

Oil Details & Safety:

• Lavender Peace Blend – Lavender promotes calm and relaxation, helping your mind settle before sleep.

• Relax & Ground Blend (make it yourself with individual oils) – Lavender soothes, frankincense supports mental clarity and calm, vetiver balances the nervous system, chamomile eases tension, and cedarwood promotes grounding and emotional calm. Perfect for deep relaxation and restorative sleep.

Got left over products?

• Ingredients – Try making a DIY Nighttime Muscle Balm or Calming Body Oil

• Packaging – Keep the droplet bottles for gifts or other DIYs

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After lockdowns, bushfires, maternity leave, supply chain issues, and the general chaos of early parenting, I realised how fragile our systems were. We were living globally, but our household wasn’t very resilient locally.

So I started thinking smaller. Starting with our house.

Do we have the basics covered?

• A simple first aid kit

• Cleaning supplies that last

• Low tox cleaning we can remake easily

• Food in the pantry

• A home that can keep running when life gets messy

Nothing fancy. Just small systems that support a healthy home.

Resilient living, for us, looks like a house that can absorb normal life stress: kids getting sick, unexpected work deadlines, chaotic weeks. Small systems make a big difference.

Over time we built routines that helped the house run more smoothly. Low tox cleaning supplies we could make again. Pantry basics that meant dinner was always possible. Sleep routines that actually worked. Movement that felt restorative.

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Lately that has also meant spending more time in the garden, learning to grow vegetables, and slowly building small layers of self-reliance. It’s still an experiment, but the goal is simple: steadiness over perfection.

A house where the basics are covered.
A home that can absorb a bit of chaos.
A family that knows how to reset when things get messy.

That’s what resilient living at home looks like to me.

Is this something you also ponder? What does it look like for you?

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That’s the heart of the Resilient Living Club.

Some sessions focus on small self care rituals and nervous system support.

Others focus on low tox living and practical home tools, like simple antibacterial cleaning blends or DIY solutions that keep households running smoothly.

The goal isn’t perfection.

It’s small habits that make everyday life easier.
Small systems that help homes feel calmer.

Small tools that help families reset when things get messy.

Because resilience usually isn’t dramatic. It’s built quietly through the routines that support us day to day.

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I’ll be running more workshops soon.

To hear about upcoming sessions you can subscribe here, leave a comment, or DM me on Instagram: Jess Insta Page

And if you’re here already, I’d love to know:

What small habit helps your home feel a little more steady?

The below links will send you directly to the doTERRA shopping cart I have set up for the different solutions we talk about in the Resilient Living Community.

You can add and remove products to suit your needs and any orders over 100 Personal Volume (PV) points and you will receive a free Wholesale Membership that gives you a 25% discount (with no minimum commitment or reorders).

Select my Wholesale Membership link if you want to start with an empty cart.

Purchase links (will redirect you to doTERRA)

Anti-bacterial cleaning full list

See this article for more information about the oils included to refine your order.

Hydration and Energy

Recovery Options

See this article for more information about the products to included in your order.

Home Essentials Starter Pack

Best value option for cleaning, sleep and recovery. Saves between $250-350 AUD.

When you are ready we can consider the how often you want to ORDER

You can order once off and try out the products or join the Loyalty Rewards Program (LRP) to set up a ‘template’ to fast track the process for next time.

A template is basically the option to have an auto-populated shopping cart, so you don’t have to think of a new list each month.

Setting up an ‘always ready’ shopping cart (or LRP) is a handy way to get the wholesale prices and get points that accumulate so you can redeem them on the products of your choice. Plus if you hit the minimum LRP points you get the product of the month. More from the official doTERRA site, here and FAQs.

Now, we’re taking it one step further.
It’s time to bring those clean, natural habits into the place where they matter just as much… your business.

We’re excited to offer a set of tools, resources, and ready-to-use solutions to help you kick-start healthier habits at work—everything you need to clean, recover, and relax in your business environment.

Even better, you can choose the level of involvement that fits your goals. Explore our two business models designed to support your growth, and discover some of our favourite DIY recipes to get you started.

OPTION ONE: Retail Only

Product & Supply

• We will rent a shelf in your retail section (see price below)

• We will make up the products and provide packaging (including branded labels)

• We handle all restocking (re-supply within 7-14 days)

• Provide instructions for safety and how to use

• Support your marketing activities

Pricing & Revenue

• Retail Price: Price per product (select from Resilient Community Hub)

• Your Commission: 15% per product

• Shelf Rental (Middle Shelf): We pay you $75/month for storage of 15 products

OPTION TWO: Account Holders

Product & Supply

• Join the Resilient Living Community as a doTERRA Wellness Advocate purchase the listed in the recipe from the you are using (from Resilient Community Hub or your own design)

• We will get you started with the containers and extra ingredients for your

• We can make the DIYs together or you can go ahead an make a start when you are ready

Pricing & Revenue

• Retail Price: You can set the price

• Your Commission: Your % per product PLUS if they purchase any produces wholesale, you get to grow an eCommerce business

• Shelf Rental (Middle Shelf): No charge

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Some of our favourite DIYs that make a handy retail go to from the Resilient Community Hub…

Instructions: Anti-bacterial Sport Spritz

Jess Aitken

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July 4, 2025

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Germ ‘Knock Out’ Spray

Jess Aitken

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July 23, 2025

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Icy Magnesium Recovery Spray

Jess Aitken

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July 25, 2025

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Hydration, Recharged: My Experience with MetaPWR® Recharge

Jess Aitken

Lately I have been thinking about two things that feel like they are pushing on families at the moment. One very local and one very global. The local one is the everyday reality of parenting now. Two working parents, childcare systems, endless logistics, and the constant sensory load of modern life.

The global one is harder to name. Many of us grew up with the quiet assumption that the big wars were behind us. That history had already paid the ultimate price for peace. That the world, while imperfect, was mostly moving forward.

Now we are raising children while watching wars, displacement, economic strain, and rapid technological change unfold in real time. News travels instantly and global events arrive directly in our living rooms. Just between my childhood and my children’s childhoods, the landscape has shifted dramatically.

Inside our own home we are navigating our own version of that shift. A spicy house with big personalities, big feelings, and multiple nervous systems learning how to live together. I grew up in a spict household too, but I do not remember it feeling this hard. Of course that is the child’s perspective. Childhood often feels lighter from the inside.

The reality is that I have been pushing through for a long time. I managed about two years of running hard before COVID isolation tipped my anxiety over the edge. I have moved through a lot of that now, but some of it still lingers. The feeling of carrying everything. Two kids at home. Limited support. Holding the whole system together.

So now I find myself asking a question many parents quietly ask. How do we find the village? Not the mythical one people talk about online, but something real and local. A handful of people who understand the load of parenting and can share it in small ways.

I also notice how often I have been waiting for the moment when things finally settle. When lockdown lifts it will be easier. When the kids start school it will be easier. When work changes it will be easier. But maybe there is not a moment where everything suddenly becomes easier. Maybe life is always a mix of things being fine and things being hard at the same time.

The work of the nervous system is not to stay calm all the time. Resilience is the ability to move through states of stress, overwhelm and frustration and find our way back again. In our house we have tools for that. Breathing, pauses, and small rituals that help us return to ourselves.

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What I have realised lately is that I have been treating those things like temporary fixes, like tools for the hard seasons. Last year was hard so I did the practices. This year will be easier. Except maybe that is not the point.

Maybe the shift is not using these things when I need them. Maybe the shift is that this is simply how I live now. Breathing, pausing, regulating, resetting. Not as a recovery plan for difficult seasons but as part of how I move through the world. Not waiting for life to become easier, just building the capacity to live inside it.

Thyme, lemongrass, and orange essential oils aren’t just for smells — they have powerful antimicrobial properties and help keep gear fresher until the next wash.

We’re a natural, low-tox cleaning household, so… that got thrown out immediately. Don’t worry, I saved the day. Using ingredients we already had at home, I whipped up an antibacterial spray for his sweaty rashies and gits.

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And that’s how Jitz Spritz was born. Not world-famous… not even a “business owner” thing… just a mom saving her husband’s gear from germs.

Over the summer, we did a quick business course (because apparently ideas need logos and labels). The plan? Offer a retail option and a DIY membership for people who like making their own sprays.

Fast forward: one gym agreed to stock the spray. And this past weekend? Our first BJJ competition market stall.

Meeting our customers in person was amazing — and honestly, I have never spoken about staph more in my life. So many sweaty people, so many germs… and so many happy mats and rashies going home without giving bacteria a chance to breed.

Now, back to bottling… because keeping BJJ gear fresh is serious business. And we’re here to make it simple, natural, and low-tox.

I’ll share more about what we use at home meanwhile,I have written about this before in case you missed it.

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